4 Ideas for How to Spend Time with Your Significant Other After Giving Birth
Updated: Jan 6, 2021
Friends, this is a topic that I talk a lot about with my new mamas. Sometimes, when we have a baby, they become our absolute world—and rightly so. But that doesn’t mean we should ignore our significant other who helped us make the journey to become a mama!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Making time for your significant other can be so challenging. It sometimes seems impossible. Once we move out of the newborn phase, my hope for you is that you find time to get back into dating your spouse. Here are some ideas on how to connect both for you to initiate and for your spouse to initiate, so make sure you show him or her this list. 😜⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
1) Encourage your significant other to help you.
This might sound counterintuitive, but hear me out. Is there something that you love doing by yourself? For example, if you love taking baths, ask your significant other to draw you a bath, bring you a glass of wine, and light a candle, so you can have some peace and quiet alone. While it seems silly to do something by yourself instead of together, connection first starts with you being in a good mental space yourself. It's difficult to connect with someone else if you're not connected with yourself, so make time to do your favorite thing, whatever it may be!
2) Cook dinner together.
Now that we're at home so much this year, one of the things I suggest doing is getting in the kitchen to cook together. There is something about getting together—no TV—maybe some music & just enjoying each other’s company. Cooking dinner can seem like a hassle, so if it's too much, try a meal delivery service and cook the pre-planned meal as long as it’s together!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
3) Turn the lights down & cozy up—sans phones!
Make time to get together without screens in front of you. Turn the lights down, make a fire, and cozy up with a blanket and hot tea. Especially this time of year, this sounds like an absolute dream! Just being together, even in silence, is better than being apart. Sometimes after a long day with a baby, all you want is silence. Enjoy it together. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
4) Choose a new series to watch together.
If you both are TV or movie lovers, choose something new to watch together! We like to choose competition shows—for example, The Great British Baking Show. We talk through the whole thing, guessing who is going to win, challenging each other & just having fun banter.
I hope you find time to spend with your partner. Post-pregnancy can be difficult, so be gentle with yourself and do your best to continue to prioritize your significant other. Your relationship will thank you for it!